There's a country song - by Deana Carter titled "Strawberry Wine." It's about a woman thinking back to the summer she was 17, her first love, a time when she was innocent, oh, and losing her virginity.
I remember listening to that song the summer it came out - a time when I was no where near having sex or turning 17 yet and listening extra hard to the words to try and gain any sexual wisdom that I could. :) There's a part that goes "Hot July moon, saw everything" - about as graphic as it gets - and I remember trying SOO hard to figure out or imagining what seeing everything REALLY meant. Ok well I knew what it meant but never having seen anything or even hearing much about it made it kind of hard to visualize. I felt so grown up listening to that song.
Turns out I too was 17 when I lost my virginity. My first "love" and "grownup" relationship. Oh lord. People always say that teenagers "think they know everything" but I honestly don't remember KNOWING much, but just having an unwavering notion that I could DO anything and it would be fine because I was so damn old and smart.
I was 17 and Joe had just turned 20? Oh Joe. Wait what the hell was I doing with a 20 year old? I'm pretty sure we told each other that we were in love with each other after about 2 weeks (oh geeeeezzz) and I managed to hold out a WHOLE month before succumbing to my insane hormones screaming SEEEEXXXX PLEEAAASEE SSEEEEXXXXX. A month? Hussy! But god if a month didn't seem like way more than enough time. It was forever and we were in luuuuuuvvv. ;) Oh silly girl.
The goofy thing though, and I wonder if it's like this for any of you, I don't REMEMBER very much. It seems like that first time should be branded in my chick memory forever crystal clear, but it's not. I remember thinking that it was important to remember what song was on the radio so I could remember THAT forever, and I remember that it was "Walking on the Sun" and I hated that song and thinking "Damn it I don't like this song, I hoped it would be something romantic." And then after that I don't remember much.
Well, him asking me a few times if I was SURE? A little bit of a burn and then it all goes away. I guess it wasn't too painful but I don't remember if it felt good or if I came anywhere NEAR really feeling good, how long, what he said, if he came fast or what we said after. And the following year we were together I remember even less. I don't know why but it just bothers me. I wonder if that 17 year old me was getting it on like a rabbit and if so was I feeling GOOD doing it? Was he getting me off? It was never an issue with us, never any pressure I know that, so maybe that's why I didn't retian many memories, I was comfortable. (but criminy shouldn't I remember my first O that wasn't alone??)
I VIVIDLY remember giving him my first blow job after we had been together for like 6 months. (backwards much?) And I remember being frightened beyond anything at the thought of him visiting down there on ME. That was a NO-WAY in my book. (What. A. Shame.)
We stayed together a whole year before I felt restless and he messed up over little stupid stuff one too many times and my 17 year old brain rationalized leaving. That and it was his dream to be in the Marines but he was never going to leave as long as I was around. I knew it was true he didn't have to tell me and he was really going nowhere staying home. He came to tell me a week or two after we broke up that he was FOR REAL signing up this time and that he was going to start taking his entrance tests.
I wanted to cling to him and tell him not to go and that I loved him and I was sorry we broke up (I was sorry and my 18 yr old self still DID think I loved him) but I knew that he WOULD stay if I asked and it would ruin him. That might be the first "wise" thing I ever did in my teenager life and looking back I thank God for that ONE thing I got right.
He came to tell me later on that he HAD signed up and they accepted him and that he was going off to boot camp. I stuck to my guns and told him I was happy for him. He went on to pass boot camp and eventually go off to Iraq. Oh God I wish I could tell him how proud I am of him, I really truly am. My parents too, they always liked him and they were proud as well.
I'm happy with my life, I love Chino and wouldn't go back to change anything but I still wonder about how Joe is doing, where he ended up and if he's finally happy. I hope he's as proud of himself as I am of him.
Joe Mills
Joseph Mills (never know, people like to google themselves, maybe one day he'll see)
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I've heard someone said that the best way of knowing whether your first time was a mistake or not is to answer this simple question: Would you like your daughter to lose her virginity that way?
For me the answer is HELL NO!
I often can't even remember the guy's name and and even more often I wish I could not remember the event itself. It was one of those "That's it?" first times. And a one night stand. With a guy in a relationship. I couldn't have gone more wrong even if I wanted to.
TMI?
No Krissie, it's never TMI if you feel like sharing it. Good lord look at my blog we've got TMI central going on here and I think it's dandy. I love the sharing - no matter if it's funny, serious, happy, pissed or sad, it brings us together.
Mushy Much? Indeed.
I remember my first pretty well. It was shortly before shipping off for the Marine Corps (no, I'm not Joe). It was with a girl I had dated a while. What I recall most was how awkward it was. We were both virgins and the lack of experience was obvious. I think we flipped around like 2 fish out of water trying to figure everything out.
I'm not sure either of us truly enjoyed it. She was crazy anyway, and the sex was better after we broke up.
Christ on a cracker, Hor
Call me a puritanical mother fucker if u like (and you might), but I believe pre-marital fornication reduces a holy act into....a base, animalistic desire-which is just how you like it I’d bet.
And tell met this, Hor. What happened to good old fashioned conversation? That's the best way to get to know your partner, not all that penetration of the penis into the pelvic cavity stuff. ‘course you and Chino don’t share a common language so we might have to make an exception- I guess the pair of ya’ll just have to stick with speaking in tongues. 'Nuff said...I think I made my point.
Sgt - :) "flipped around like 2 fish out of water" :) *chuckle* Good of you to share.
Crazy sex? MMMMMmmmmmmmmm. . .
Stan - So, . . . you're just not getting any huh?
I don't recall much about my first time either, except that I did not climax. I figured it was something that happened with experience.... It was 1987, and I was stupid, 19, with a guy a lot older than me - nearly twice my age. Turned out he was an alcoholic, married, and dangerously crackers. That didn't last long, once my 19-year-old fantasies were shattered. What became of him? He called my folks' house looking for me after I was married, years later. I don't know what he wanted. He died in 1995.
Well, there's my TMI contribution!
So, you did the deed after a month of dating? Oh, you HOR-gal! Wait, I've been seeing New Fella a month...and a week! Hmmm....
Blogget - Tramp.
;) I'm thinking by the responses here that most of the hearts and butterfly "first times" would belong to folks that waited till they were married. I still bet it would be flip-flop hearts and erratic flying laughing butterfies tho. :) Very QUICK flying butterflies at that. *snort*
Good job with your TMI, and thank you for sharing. I think we should find a new name for TMI here in hor-land.
Ok I thought but I'm still at blank.
Know what else? And I'll put this here, but not in my blog -- New Fella's name is Joe (not that it's an uncommon name....but still).
Okay, new name for TMI.... We do it so often here :o) Maybe we're just HORing? lol
All right, all right...it's lame. It's Friday. I need a weekend!
My first time was when I was 19 and he was 25, and he was really manly and hairy and masculine, but very sweet and cuddly too. When it hurt -- a LOT -- he stopped and rubbed my feet and told me dirty jokes until we were both laughing.
*sigh*
I hope Joe Googles himself (who doesn't?) and finds your blog about him!
See, ellen, that's a sweet "first" story. I like that!
Blogget - I've never met a Joe I didn't like. ;)
And yes, it's ok, we need a weekend to defrag, monday to wake up and I'll get to it on tuesday. Maybe Wednesday I'm usually rollin by Wednesday. Sort of.
Ellen - Phew! *sigh of releif* Awwww that was nice :) What's up with us all being with the older guys??
And yeah, me too :)
Christ on a CRACKER, that was a sweet story. You were in a relationship and waited a month, which is pretty freakin puritanical compared to my story. I'm in Krissie's club. I was hanging out with 18 year olds & nobody but me was a virgin...Hardly knew the guy, he was like 10 years older than me and I was...motherofgod and christonacracker just barely 15 years old. And it was in my friend's dad's bed. And the guy passed out 30 seconds after shooting his wad. Nice.
Can't remember the first time too well. I do remember other times with the same guy though. Somehow it's a sad mix of full blown hormonally induced horny and the nagging feeling of being used. I was 16 and in school, he was 19 and a total bum. Unemployed, arrogant and obsessed with porn.
To follow suit of Krissie, I would never ever want my daughter, or my son for that matter, to have a first sexual experience like that.
And sgt. I WISH I had waited for boyfriend number two, the virgin. Flapping around like two fish on shore seems infinitely more appealing than a crash course in 'how to become a porn actress'.
What became of him? He tried to talk me out of dating my now husband (two years AFTER we'd broke up!). Then I don't know.
Disclaimer: I was never in any porn. Nor was he -- I hope.
Blogget - I forgot to mention how much I giggled when I read "dangerously crackers" ahahhaahah You crack me up!
Katm - God now that you think about it can you figure out what we were doing having sex so young? I was pretty late at 17 compared to my classmates. When I think about it now I don't think I was even NEAR actually mature enough to be having sex untill I was around 20 -but way too young for marrige at 20 that's for sure. Not that I got married but I'm just saying. I have NO IDEA what I will do if I have a daughter. Honestly. Maybe I'll let her read this blog post?
Bel - Jesus Jumped up in a handbasket - WHAT is UP with young girls/older guys???? SHIT! So were the guys just not doing it? Or were they all with older chicks? Geeebus.
"Full blown hormonally Induced horny" I do believe you hit THAT part of it on the head. Crap they should have a pill for THAT for kids to take until they're old enough to deal with reality.
:) No porn huh? (oh thank god I can say me niether, I'm just not that kind of hor)
First - heck I can't remember my whole entire marriage. Ha you say... well we were together for 6 months before we got married... were together for 3 1/2 years and I ended up with 3 kids but to this day I couldn't tell you if he was good or not... (Maybe that is because I have blocked it out of my mind it was so bad) It was 11 years ago that I left him though... and I seem to think that if the sex was good I would of went back... NOT!
My first time was pretty nice. I was 19 and he was 20 and we dated for a little bit and then when it came time to DO it, he asked if I was sure and I was. He was so tender and gentle and asked often if I was ok. Didn't hurt too much, and we cuddled afterwards. Then after that, it was all wild abandon!! We had crazy sex, horny fucks... We were in the college dorm rooms and after one night of wild sex, the guy in the next room asked us to move our bed to the other wall. heh heh.. that was when I realized the bed moves, too! We were friends the whole year and only together as a couple for about 2 months and I think we had sex maybe 2 weeks in the relationship. He was my first serious boyfriend and I look back fondly. Don't think I could have married him though... not that he asked.
Would I want my daughter to have a first time like mine? Yes, I hope she has a first time like mine and not at 14 like some girls I knew...
As for older guys and younger girls, I always liked the older guys. Hubby is 10 years older than me. The younger ones were such dorks!
I was 15. 15. OMG. My kid is 14 now. OMG OMG OMG. He better NOT make me a grandma.
I remember Joe. After you two broke up, he turned gay.
My first time, I was 18 and he was 2 months younger. He was my first love, we had been together for a year or so. I remember it well, not that it was so wonderful, but it was good. I didn't climax until the 2nd time we did it. We broke up around a year later and remained friends, hung out together, went on double dates with our new loves, although I know a couple of his girlfriends weren't too crazy about me. We'd have an occasional booty call with eachother-or if we were both unattached we'd start doing it again. Even now we still talk and hang out on occasion, no nooky. We haven't done it in over 10 years. I'm married and he lives with his girlfriend so there's no reason to. We make better friends than lovers. But if there was no else around.....
I'm googling myself right now!
Come on, Dyckerson. Don't leave these up to me.
And why does it say 'cum for me' over the comment box? Totally relevant, but it's not in the title or anything....
The first time was Christmas of 1989. I was 18 with Fugazi and the Cocteau Twins playing in the background. An odd combination I know, but the Cocteau Twins seemed to work at least. The only thing I remember was other than being in her friend's room and him looking to interupt was that the logistics were so terrible (they were never good with that gal).
I'd like to think there's a such thing as a great first time, but frankly, I just don't believe.
Well, after dating for 9 months we decided to go for it. I was 19, he was 20, both as virgin as a person can be. The first time it hurt so much I thought it was a hunting knife entering me. After that we did it, well more like tried to do it, 4 more times.The last time I bled so much I thought I'd need a team of experts to sew me up.
Did I climax? Hell no! This is why I call it "the fabulous 5" - after that we didn't have sex for the next 11 months!!!! That is how much I liked it - NOT!
Now that we've been dating for 4 years and I must say it's a lot better.
There was no sweet first time for me. Even though he was gentle all the time, it hurt like hell.
Hm. I remember mine from beginning to end in detail. That would be because he took UNDER A MINUTE.
I was so let down I wouldn't speak to him again. Callous b*tch that I am I went on to experiment with 3 other guys in the next two weeks. All four of them were called Dave.
Man, I hope nobody I know reads this. What is it about your blog that inspires all these 'true confessions?'
Anon #1 - Dang girl I think you were too busy havin babies to be thinking about sex! ;)
Jenny - YAY!! A happy story. *Phewww!!* Hubby is 10 yrs. older?? You'd never tell by the pics, way to go on mr. cutie w/ good genes! :)
KP - Isn't that FREAKY to think about??? He seems like a baby still right? GAWD I don't have kids yet but just SEEING 14-15 yr olds makes my brain do a flip flop to even consider that they could be getting it on. They. Are. KIDS! God stop handing out condoms in 5th grade and give these kids some legos. GAHHHH
XOXOX and good luck :)
Dyck - GAWWWWDDD I thought we had the talk about how neighbors don't tell secrets on each other! You watch out beotch or I WILL post the pics I've got of you in your clown suit last christmas at the Dairy Queen drunk and pretending to be Ronald McDycknald.
Rosa - Climax the second time? Whoo Hoo go you! And a booty friend to boot, you did a kick but job of picking your first.
Alan - So you're still a virgin, it's ok, we sort of already knew that Mr. Bottle Rocket launcher builder/World of Warcraft aficianado.
Yeah Him - You don't beleive in Christmas Miracles? "The logistics were terrible.....with that girl" I've got a pretty good idea what yer talkin about here. S'okay, we'll give you the re-do on that one. ;)
Anon#2 - OOOWWW!!! A friend of mine was like that the very first time but WOW 5 times in a row? Goodness no wonder you didn't do it again for so long. That's like when I got drunk enough and puked the first time - I didn't drink for a year uhhhhhgggggggaaalck! Thank goodness it's better for you now!!
Sparx - Sparx. Wow just sparx. OOOOOHHHHHH you are my no longer my heroine but my horoine! Did you go through the phone book?
You didn't speak to him after the first time? A minute? OUCH - but let your friendly hor soothe you a bit - I dumped a two guys for being bad kissers and later on one for being, well. . . *ahem* uh SSSSSSSshhhhhhh - tiny.
When you said you dumped a guy for being (tiny), you made me laugh!! I have a confession: I COULD have lost my virginity to a guy when I was 17, during Spring Break at the beach. He was oh so hot and cute and curly brown hair, had his own car and he was 19... *sighhh* Until I saw him naked and he was uncircumsised. Eeeewwwwww!!! My precious shiny neww love box clamped shut and I pretended to pass out from the ONE beer I had. He tried to wake me up and then gave up and went to sleep. Whew!! I was a little worried he might try something while I was "asleep" but he was a nice guy about it.
Sorry boys, but this is one girl that doesnt like uncircumsised dicks!
Jenny, that's HYSTERICAL! Your poor 17-yr-old self, all geared up for your first time, and then YIKES! I remember the first time I encountered that, too. Wasn't sure what to do with it....
I've broken up with guys for being bad kissers, too, Hor-gal. Or just never went back for more. Did anyone see that reality show that Bobby Knight had on ESPN? He had an asst coach on there, working with the guys each episode. If I hadn't been watching with my mom, I would have blurted out, "See that guy? He is REALLY bad in bed!" He thought BITING the "lady flower" was a good idea....even drew blood. Yowzers.
Jenny - Oo Uncirced? I don't think I've ever encountered one but I saw pics in a dirty magazine once. I don't think it would be bad to do one but eeek it seems like I wouldn't want to put that in my mouth considering the skin to skin-sweat buildup-possibility? They'd have to be FRESH out of the shower that's for sure. (1 beer hahahahahahhahaha)
Blogget - Drew blood???? EEEEEEEEE *running away from computer* EEEEEeeeeeeeee ......eeeeeeeeek.
*coming back* HOLY SHIT! I. I. I. This might be the first time I'm speechless. All I can think about is what would be wonderful time turning into a really bad B-rated vampire movie. Omygosh.
Heartwarming...why is it we always feel the need to talk about our "first time" ladies? LOL
I'm such a prude...
Sassy - Bad day at work? And you are so NOT a prude little miss I sing and point at people. God I actually thought about you the other day ( ok so everytime I drive home from work and sing) and tried to work up the gumption to do it. But I just can't!! EEeeeee I'm such a weeenie.
Haha!! However, I can't believe all you ladies who've never seen an un-circed man-stalk... nothing wrong with a full set of drapes!
Ohhh, I like the un-cut ones! What's wrong with them? Believe me, you get used to it, it make take a while. Danielle, or should I call you Lindystar? I'm new here. Anyhoo, from gathering what you wrote, I'm suprised your burrito man is cut. Aren't most of the men born outside of the US uncut? (not including the countries that circumsize for religious reasons)The ones I've encountered, two born in Europe, 1 born in Central America, 1 born in Puerto Rico, all uncut. Yeah, they're a little daunting at first, but once you get used to 'em, hmmm. More to play with! Yikes, I'd better stop, I'm under the influence, of what I don't know.
Rosa - Secret? About burrito? SSSSSSsshhhhhhhhh...... ( I'm not sure WHAT he is!) EEEEEEEEeeeeeeeee! It's like he's inbetween or something and I'm not sure what to make of it but I just don't care. He makes whatever it is that he has do everything that I need so I just leave it be.
OH, and you can call me Lindy, and it's nice to have you here :)
Coming in a bit late on this one, but my first time all I kept thinking was, "THAT is not going to fit in HERE!!"
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